How do the authorities (parents and the state) view "ABG bareng doi"?

This creates a toxic hierarchy of dating value. Young men, in particular, feel immense pressure to be the "financial doi." If an ABG cannot afford a nonton bareng (watching together) at a cinema or a date night at a mall, they are often labeled kere (poor) or pelit (stingy) by the partner or their peers.

While Indonesia remains a deeply family-oriented society, Gen Z and Alpha use "alternate spaces" on social media to curate their own identities. Posting about a partner is a form of individuality and social status. The Digital "Seat of the Soul":